Now is all you have to work with. If you could be finished with all of your past and be totally confident in your ability to decide what your future was going to be it would be no problem. The reason getting past now can be so tough is that you invested a lot of time in creating a very elaborate interactive character that goes by the name of (your name here). If you are like most people you find it difficult to accept that you are under no obligation to give anything that has happened up until this moment any importance in determining your future now’s. The problem is that you think your past has to matter. It doesn’t. Like everything you do right now, it is a choice you are making now.
All the world is a stage and all the men and women merely players. You are that actor and each day you should be working at improving the character you are playing. You may say that is what you are doing. That is probably true but you are very likely missing one key part of the equation. You are probably carrying around a lot of baggage thinking what has happened in your past now’s matters. In “reality” none of the past has any more importance than what you choose to give it. Everything except right NOW is in your imagination and has no reality other than what you choose to give it. It is whatever you have decided to believe it is and nothing more. That gets back to why getting past “now” can be so difficult – most of us place a great deal of importance on what has happened in our past and allow it to define much of what we see as “now”.
Forget your past. There is nothing to regret or feel guilty about. A good athlete spends no time feeling guilty about a missed catch – they just get focused on being ready for the next opportunity to make a great catch. Place no importance on a “mis-take” – just get focused on making your now go the way you want it to.
An even bigger realization is that like the actor in a play, if you want to, you can decide to play and entirely new character having very little to do with the part you were playing in those past nows. A little amnesia could be helpful – we would then be trying to figure out what was going on rather than dealing with all of the things we had forgotten about. We often get so invested in the role we have created for ourselves that we take ourselves way to seriously. You may think that everything you do in your life matters. It does but no more than the part an actor plays in a play. It is all supposed to be for fun and adventure – an intricate interactive game. Don’t let the world you have invented in your mind limit you in any way. You need to remember that you have no limits on you except what you choose to believe in. You are totally in control of all your now moments. You are fully capable of changing, defining and doing whatever you want with your character. Don’t let your past trap you in a now that you are not happy with.
Imagineer yourself to a wonder-filled future of nows!