The Hardest Part Is Getting Past Now.

OmRamRamaya

Now is all you have to work with. If you could be finished with all of your past and be totally confident in your ability to decide what your future was going to be it would be no problem. The reason getting past now can be so tough is that you invested a lot of time in creating a very elaborate interactive character that goes by the name of (your name here). If you are like most people you find it difficult to accept that you are under no obligation to give anything that has happened up until this moment any importance in determining your future now’s. The problem is that you think your past has to matter. It doesn’t. Like everything you do right now, it is a choice you are making now.

All the world is a stage and all the men and women merely players.  You are that actor and each day you should be working at improving the character you are playing. You may say that is what you are doing. That is probably true but you are very likely missing one key part of the equation. You are probably carrying around a lot of baggage thinking what has happened in your past now’s matters. In “reality” none of the past has any more importance than what you choose to give it. Everything except right NOW is in your imagination and has no reality other than what you choose to give it. It is whatever you have decided to believe it is and nothing more. That gets back to why getting past “now” can be so difficult – most of us place a great deal of importance on what has happened in our past and allow it to define much of what we see as “now”.

Forget your past. There is nothing to regret or feel guilty about. A good athlete spends no time feeling guilty about a missed catch – they just get focused on being ready for the next opportunity to make a great catch. Place no importance on a “mis-take” – just get focused on making your now go the way you want it to.

An even bigger realization is that like the actor in a play, if you want to, you can decide to play and entirely new character having very little to do with the part you were playing in those past nows.  A little amnesia could be helpful – we would then be trying to figure out what was going on rather than dealing with all of the things we had forgotten about.  We often get so invested in the role we have created for ourselves that we take ourselves way to seriously. You may think that everything you do in your life matters. It does but no more than the part an actor plays in a play. It is all supposed to be for fun and adventure – an intricate interactive game. Don’t let the world you have invented in your mind limit you in any way. You need to remember that you have no limits on you except what you choose to believe in.  You are totally in control of all your now moments. You are fully capable of changing, defining and doing whatever you want with your character. Don’t let your past trap you in a now that you are not happy with.

Imagineer yourself to a wonder-filled future of nows! 

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Politics and LinkedIn

Some thoughts about the Business version of Facebook… thoughts on social commentary in general as well…

Temperature rising.  Talk about HOT buttons.  There is a very good reason why it is often suggested that you keep politics and religion out of business discussions.  Some people simply can’t have a calm discussion – way to emotionally attached to their own position to be conversational.  Lately there have been numerous references to the politics of the day and various players in the game on thebusiness networking site LinkedIn.

Many LinkedIn users have noted that these comments belong on Facebook rather than LinkedIn.  It is not the mention of political positions that is really the problem; it is the nature of the comments.  Scathing rebukes or rabid support of President Obama or Donald Trump will both generate dozens of angry and often even really nasty remarks that have no basis other than personal opinion.  It is here that I think many of you, my LinkedIn friends, have missed the point of what this site is about.  LinkedIn is a networking site designed to share connections, ideas and strategies for building personal and business success.  Comments like those we are referring to have nothing to do with building success.

LinkedIn is about finding ways to maneuver and innovate and thrive in whatever conditions happen to exist at any given moment.  It makes absolutely no difference if you agree or do not agree with any given policy or government regulation.  As a business person (or anyone really) you simply need to deal with it and figure out how you can optimize your business strategies in whatever environment you find yourself.  Complaining about what you don’t like accomplishes nothing.  The important thing is how you are going to minimize any negative effects and maximize the positive openings available.

LinkedIn should be about solutions because no one ever succeeds by getting all wrapped up in the perceive problems.  Currently, we have lots of “sour grapes” on LinkedIn thanks to the volatile politics of the day.  Let it go!  If we arrive at a time where everyone agrees on how to do things, it will mean growth and innovation have stalled.  It is the determination to thrive and succeed regardless of the obstacles and rules we don’t like that stimulate innovation and creativity.  If everything was easy going, we would be far less likely to come up with bold new ideas.  So, instead of LinkedIn complainers let’s stay focused on LinkedIn innovators.

John A. Brodie, PositiVibes Network

Complaining Gets You More of What You Don’t Want

It is sad to see so much anger and hatred being spread in the name of protecting the world and people’s way of life.  Just when you think we are making progress toward a more evolved level of consciousness we get a new bunch of suicide bombers and wanton killers to challenge the positive visions of a better world.  Without our global news media and its insatiable appetite for horror those sick deeds of a very few would have little significance in the reality of most of our lives.  However, our omnipresent media very quickly makes them stars in the reality play that has been created for our entertainment.

I say entertainment because we are the voracious consumers of all of this bad news.  Our actual “entertainment” programs are filled with horror and pain.  It is the audience ratings that sell the commercial time that fund the 24 hour a day search for tragedies and injustices to report on.  You may say that it is all very real and we need to know about it to fight it or protect ourselves from it.  I will agree that it is real but what you need to realize is that your attention to it that makes it thrive and grow.  The attention we give terrorists and “evil doers” of all kinds does nothing to diminish their power or numbers. On the contrary, it is that attention that energizes their efforts and gives them validation.

One day the majority of people will come to realize that we are the designers of reality, not helpless experiencers of it. Reality is not something that happens to us.  As difficult as it is for most people to accept, everything that happens in a person’s life is their personal choice.  Don’t get me wrong, it is often an unintentional choice but it is still the individual’s choice 100% of the time.   If you get blown up by a suicide bomber, it was you that accepted that possible reality.  It was your choice.

This is why the news media is such a harmful force.  The media (admittedly in response to the desires of the audience) creates a danger filled picture of reality.  Anyone who becomes convinced that they are personally at risk is giving permission for themselves to be thrown into the middle of the action.  Choosing your personal reality is much like choosing what channel to watch.  Do you choose to believe in a romantic comedy, a big adventure or a crime drama?  What kind of story do you decide to be a part of?  If you can recognize that it is YOUR choice, you can always live in the reality you actually want to be a part of.  Equally important is the fact that by you making that choice, you have added energy to that version of reality that will help make that version of reality more dominant as a worldview for others.

It really is like every other aspect of life:  focus only on the things you are happy about and give you satisfaction and “ Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil”.  No evil can befall you unless thinking makes it so.